Now I know they would and that I apparently don’t communicate like a normal person.  I have seen so many cases of “I am SUPER mad at X because they did Y, but don’t tell X I’m mad that they did Y.”

or “I’m really upset at X, because they did Y to A, but A told me not to talk about the fact that X did Y to them, or why they’re upset”

I see this shit CONSTANTLY.  I hate it.