Charity is all too often about the emotional needs of the giver more than the material needs of the receiver, and I have seen too many academics and bourgeois political types listen to me so that they might feel altruistic, so that they might feel that they care about my struggles, but ultimately use that performance of giving a shit about marginalized people to further their own careers while continuing to do nothing to benefit me. 

Don’t study me and write a report.  Let me talk.