You know what works weirdly well for dealing with bad memories? Imagining current you going and getting past you out of there and putting them someplace safe and nice.

You’ve heard of drama llamas

Now get ready for TRAUMA LLAMAS

I Wonder How Many Other

Sexual trauma survivors have sexual fantasy lives that feature almost no fantasies with themselves in them. I fantasise generally about two or more people who are not me. I fantasise sexually in the third person most of the time, especially when I’m having a hard time coping.

I feel like a lot of the shitty dynamics that crop up on the left are the result of traumatized people who haven’t dealt with their shit sufficiently to be able to do organization effectively trauma bonding and forming unhealthy group dynamics.

And like there’s genuinely, really truly nothing wrong with being in too fucked up a place to do political work. No one’d be expecting you to do work place organizing while you were in traction after a skiing accident, trauma’s the same way. Heal up *then* organize.

Trauma Capitalist:

One who uses the trauma of others as an excuse to exercise their worst impulses, build up social capital, settle their own vendettas and work towards their own political ambitions. They don’t give a shit about victims, only themselves

I’m having some thoughts on kink as coping mechanism after trauma

And how in a lot of cases a sex worker is a safer partner for these scenes than someone who’s sexually gratified by playing with stuff the survivor’s trying to work through. Gonna write more on this after I sleep .