kittiecunt:

thepeacockangel:

kiara-petgirl:

kittiecunt:

I don’t think that we can effectively move forward in tackling issues of sexism, racism, sexuality based intolerances, ableism, and so on, while simultaneously claiming that BDSM is an acceptable reality of sexual expression. I feel like…

Check out this post and this post. Ha. I know this is a lazy response, but they explain it better than I probably will. I’m still forming thoughts and ideas about this myself, but those two posts are good starting points.

I think people are really getting stuck on the typical libfem sex-positivity rhetoric of “I choosed this and therefore I’m right”. You have every right to make your choices and to consent to whatever you’d like, and I will fight and argue for your right to have that choice. BUT, it doesn’t mean that I think all choices are conducive to the ideology of the liberation movements that make you entitled to make that choice. It’s about the eyes that are perpetuated when some choices are made. It’s like…. When someone CHOOSES to have their leg amputated for aesthetic reasons or whatever identity thing they use to explain it. They have a right to make that choice. But the implications of the choice being made are fucking problematic. You have the right to choose to participate in BDSM. But the implications of BDSM sex are fucking problematic and not conducive to obliterating oppression and creating a society of liberation. 

Yeah, we’re having a semantic issue, not a praxis based one.  I chose to distance myself from a lot of community shit a long time ago (partially because I’m monogamous and it seems to be so intensely about playing with new people).