Tag: feminism

Male Stoicism is backed up by an incredible amount of emotional labor from women

Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked.  It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.

Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.

Bourgeois Feminism Is A Feminism That Demands Nothing Of Men

Did you know that as more married upper class and upper middle class women became employed during the 70s there was a dramatic uptick in demand for domestic labor?

They do not demand their husbands pick up the slack when they enter the workforce, instead building their “liberation” on the backs of working class women, usually working class WOC.

As well 19th century Bourgeois feminists were only horrified by working class sex workers because sex work was easier and paid better than being a scullery maid, thus making it harder and more expensive to get domestic labor.  They set up caring courses (read: Training and recruitment courses for domestic laborers) and crusaded against sex workers to make sure their supply of domestic labor was unthreatened.  

You’ll note bourgeois feminists never demonize or rail against domestic labor the way they rail against sexual labor.  This is because they have no use for sex workers and all the use in the world for domestic workers.

I Really Want To Write A Thing About het Femdom Porn Under Patriarchy

And how intensely misogynistic most of it is.  It’s like an image of female power from a patriarchal society and so like what femdom is and looks like is pretty interesting in terms of what it can tell us about the patriarchy.  I have a vicious headache right now, but like I feel like a lot of it is interesting in what it reveals about the patriarchy and ideas about power

Off the top of my aching head: 

The obsession with strap ons is like dudes being obsessed with the idea that penetration = dominance

Cuckolding is about insecurity over masculinity and also “if a woman can dominate me I must somehow be inadequately male, but also I want to see her get fucked by a “proper” man, the she’s supposed to”

Sissification is again “if a woman can dominate me or I want to be dominated by a woman I must not really be a man”

There’s also this whole uncomfortable clothes = ULTRA DOMINANT on a woman, like corsetry and pointy fucking heels are dominant IDK?  I mean like I love my corsets and never wear flats but like ???

Alternatively “role reversal” shit where a dude sub is in traditionally feminine attire and the lady dom is in traditionally masculine attire is all wound up with notions of masculine power

Fin-domme is just like fantasizing about the shitty stereotype about gold diggers and the idea that women can make men irrational/unable to control themselves with lust

Smoking fetish is like “yeah it’s so dominant when you do something that’s actively harming you”?