Tag: feminism

Another Reason The IWW Kicks Ass:

They banned a guy for life when I complained about him sending me a bunch of SWERF shit.

I complained, sent some screen shots, and a branch in Australia made a point to make sure he can’t join again.

And the gender equity committee is paying for part of my ticket down to the organizing conference coming up.

This organization actually holds up when you scrutinize its support for intersectional approaches.

And BTW if a guy who is already misogynist has his negative views of women reinforced by porn

Then it’s because literally anything will reinforce his being a fuckin’ shitty dude, because he chooses to be a fucking shitty dude.  Do not absolve the dude.  This is his fault.

We need to get rid of those dudes.

Seriously.

http://greatist.com/happiness/does-porn-promote-negative-view-of-women

http://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/dr-laura-berman-on-love-and-sex/does-watching-porn-make-men-sexist/

Can we actually just blame the misogynists for their being misogynists?  Quit saying “Men have seen porn, they can’t help themselves” 

They can so help themselves.  Do not blame images of people fucking.  Blame the dudes.

Okay, so you know how there’s the stereotype that submissive dudes are all CEOs and politicians and whatever when they’re not tied up being called “Binky the cuckold” or whatever?

How come the equivalent is that all powerful women are really submissive?  Not that all submissive women are powerful outside of the bedroom, but that all powerful women are really submissive.

So like the assumption is that all submissive men are really powerful and all powerful women are really submissive… do you see why this is fucked?

I mean, yes I am a loud angry bitch outside of the bedroom.  I shout a lot and have very loud opinions and yeah, I’m a sub, but I think it’s more because hey, I’m like that fuckin’ CEO who needs a break some time (without being bourgeois slime) and not every loud angry shouty lady is a sub, some people don’t need a break.

Also how come dominant dudes are supposed to be Mr. Dominating and powerful outside of sex as well?  Like in my experience a lot of doms of all genders are really sweet and shy and quiet outside of D/s stuff and are really attentive, giving partners (D does so much sweet shit for me, like SO much)

Me as an edgy stand up comic: Oh look at me burning whale oil and wearing bloomers, I’m so politically incorrect, check out my cutting edge victrola.  I say the edgy things everyone thinks but is too PC to say, like that anxious people shouldn’t eat watercress because it’s too exciting to the nervous system, and that one must always wear flannel petticoats so as not to catch a deadly chill.  Yeah, I’m offensive, I’ll tell you that excessively flavored food ruins the complexion, unlike those boring PC liars.

Also Dear Fellow White People:

Let’s remember that the hyper-competent black woman who never gets a romance storyline and carries all the white people on her team, is not a progressively written character.  The trope exists to justify the centuries old bullshit of treating black women like unlovable beasts of burden while white women get to be treasured decorative objects to be protected (which is a better position, don’t lie, like it’s not ‘actual person’ good, but it’s a biiiig step up.)

Like she’s cool and she’s a badass, but she deserves to get to be vulnerable, and treasured and loved and not treated like an expendable resource rather than a lovable and valued human being.

leighalanna:

thepeacockangel:

throughmotion:

pixiewithapurpose:

Girls who “reclaim their femininity” are just… so mysterious to me. Who exactly tried to take it from you? Who told you that being feminine wasn’t a-okay? idk I’ve never heard any social message that wasn’t urging me to wear makeup and tight clothes, to shave and to be girly. Sounds more like you internalized the message that you shouldn’t be like those “ugly, hairy, unladylike women” to the point where you’d do anything to distance yourselves from them. Including spewing the lie that they’re somehow more accepted than you are.

the answer is men. who has tried to take my femininity, my sexuality, my very personhood? men. I don’t know about straight women, but when femmes talk about reclaiming femininity, we’re talking about taking it back from men & their gaze—defiantly asserting that our femininity & our sexuality does not exist for their benefit or in relation to them at all. I am not distancing myself from butch women by naming myself femme.

Actually, I grew up in an enviornment where girly clothes, makeup and all the rest was for “stupid girls” and I recognize that this is not common, but I grew up in an area where the proliferation of second wave was very thorough.

My mother would never let me wear what I liked it was always “too frou frou”, makeup was for girls who didn’t think or care about the enviornment or whatever stupid bullshit, and basically the only acceptable thing was to be an utterly self sacrificing earth mother who spent all her time barefoot and making organic vegan food so the men could talk about how ethical and progressive they were.  It wasn’t about being butch, it was about not taking time for yourself.  The acceptable woman isn’t selfish, doesn’t deck herself in shiny things or spend hours painting her face because that is unacceptable vanity and immodesty (at least where I’m from) and the criticism of “vanity and immodesty” got turned into something “radical” by hippie dudes who just want you barefoot in the kitchen and not messing with your hair because it interferes with your schedule of serving their domestic needs.

Like butchness and femmeness are both unacceptable to men, butchness because it refuses to be sweetly feminine, and femmeness because it’s self focused and not focused on caring for the needs of men.

And let’s not lose sight of the fact that just because femininity is forced on and expected of women does not mean that it isn’t constantly denigrated and reviled. Like, far be it from me to come out in favor of weaponized femininity, but the idea that women have unchallenged ownership of their relationship to beauty is childish bollocks.
And this is in no way antithetical to the relationship of butch or masculine presenting women to *their* beauty.

Or general worth and goodness because beauty is a bollox word in my opinion.  Butch and femme both challenge the idea that femininity is performed as a service for men (and the societal idea that femininity is only acceptable to the degree that a man wants and accepts it, no more, no less)