Tag: feminism

These extracts illustrate how dominant educational discourses of the ideal female pupil may be experienced as narrow and constraining by young working class women, who find it difficult to reconcile a positive view of themselves as pupils with their own notions of an assertive, strong femininity. The girls’ assertions of ‘loud’, active and visible femininities can be understood as challenging the forms of submissive, passive and quiet femininity that are usually rewarded within schools. For boys, such ‘challenging’ behaviours may tend to be read as part of ‘normal’ masculinity, whereas the same behaviours may bring young women into conflict with schools because they are interpreted as deviant and undesirable aspects of femininity (e.g., as problematic or aggressive rather than ‘assertive’).

Inner-city femininities and education: ‘race’, class, gender and schooling in young women’s lives by Louise Archer, Anna Halsall and Sumi Hollingworth

Look, if you can’t deal with doing the actual work of challenging and changing sexism (which is a slow and draining process, I know) let me do it. Stay out of the way in your safe space while I get this done, you can come out when the revolution’s finished.

Like, don’t approach people in ways that no one has ever responded positively to because you think that’s an approach people should respond to, and then get huffy when they don’t and destroy all the progress I’ve made.  You’re not helping.

It’s really funny when men treat me like I’m stupid cause’ of how I look. Even “feminist” dudes look at me and think “She needs to be treated like a hyperactive small dog that can’t control where it wees.”

Wherever, Whenever (I creep on whoever)

Lucky you sat down so far away,

So I could move to be a nuisance

Lucky that I have such awful manners

So I won’t move at your insistence 

Baby I would climb the andes solely

To make comments about your body

Never could imagine that I should wholly

keep my grubby hands off somebody

Le do, lo le, lo le
Le do, lo le, lo le
Can’t you see?
I’m such a creep!

Wherever, whenever, I hit on whoever, I’ll be there and you will sneer, I’ll act like I can’t hear

There over, here under
You’ll always have to wonder
Why I chose to pinch your rear
But that’s the deal my dear

Lucky that my lips not only mumble
They drip spittle like a fountain
Lucky that my dick is small not humble

I’ve got an ego like a mountain

Fuck you have strong legs like your mother
To run for cover when you need it
so you escape when I chase after
To bother you I’d swim a river

Le do, lo le, lo le
Le do, lo le, lo le
hands on boobs
I grab your boobs 

Wherever, whenever, 

I hit on whoever, 

I’ll be there and you will sneer, 

I’ll act like I can’t hear 

There over, here under
You’ll always have to wonder
Why I chose to pinch your rear
But that’s the deal my dear

Le do, lo le, lo le, lo le
Tell me one more time
That you want
Me to just die

Wherever, whenever,

I hit on whoever,

I’ll be there and you will sneer,

I’ll act like I can’t hear

There over, here under
You’ve got me head over heels
It is just as you feared
It’s your underwear I intend to steal

Wherever, whenever,

I hit on whoever,

I’ll be there and you will sneer,

I’ll act like I can’t hear

There over, here under
You’ve got me head over heels
It is just as you feared
It’s your underwear I intend to steal

Body hair fetishists are one of the reasons I am so religious about hair removal

Cause like smooth is neutral. Smooth is not generally something dudes get worked up over. It’s more about “not a negative” than an actual positive.

Dudes who are into it get ready into it and it’s usually with the whole “ooh it’s disgusting and grotesque so it gets me hard” logic (with sub dudes it’s like “it’s grotesque so it humiliates me” with Dom dudes it’s like “it’s grotesque so it humiliates you”) and that shit’s gross and the thought of them fapping is so horrific to me I shave even when I’m lazy cause I want that shit nowhere near me

So a dude accused me of “using my body to get what I want and then complaining about nonexistent objectification and misogyny” when I’d been talking about misogyny in genres of music where I did the groupie thing.  Like is using your physical sex appeal specifically to get sex not like the ONE time where “using your body to get what you want” is considered totally normal? 

Which is not to say complaints of women using sex appeal for say… career advancement aren’t utter bullshit too, but like literally what other quality would I have used in that situation?  I don’t think my experience with adobe photoshop or how many WPM I type are really applicable to getting casual sex.

I think it amounts to dudes not understanding that finding someone sexy is not the same as objectifying them.