Talk about the misogyny in male dom porn, or relatively vanilla porn, the very obvious shit, slapping, pain, crying, very few people discuss the misogyny in femdom or the subtle shit and when you talk about only what’s blatant you reduce the iceberg to not just what’s visible but to the very highest peak of the damn thing and everything else just gets hand waved away. This is actually a problem.
Femdom shows us patriarchal ideas about female power and I think that’s interesting.
Seriously seriously you HAVE to read this.
We offer them what we offer the most privileged women: power over their enemies. The price is an
end to their privilege over us.
Strange to think that even today, when confronted with the autonomy of the Black movement or the autonomy of the women’s movement, there are those who talk about this “dividing the working class.” Strange indeed when our experience has told us that in order for the working class to unite in spite of the divisions which are inherent in its very structure‐factory versus plantation versus home versus schools‐those at the lowest levels of the hierarchy must themselves find the key to their weakness, must themselves find the strategy which will attack that point and shatter it, must themselves find their own modes of struggle.
This is so good. Read it.
Which is not to say fuck your pain in general if you are a man. There are a lot of reasons for dudes to have pain and those are perfectly legitimate and I feel for you.
However when you believe your pain exists or is worse because you are a man (and is not dysphoria etc related, obvs) then fuck you, you fucking exhausting needy fuck. God I’d love to see you try having non-man pain and see how that goes (it goes badly, it goes very very fucking badly)
It was the lord who commanded women’s work and social relations, deciding,
for instance, whether a widow should remarry and who should be her spouse, in some
areas even claiming the ius primae noctis – the right to sleep with a serf’s wife on her
wedding night.
Caliban and The Witch – Silvia Federici
The idea that women are better than men (less violent, kinder, more nurturing etc) is misogynist because it excuses men’s bad behavior and holds women to a more rigid behavioral standard than men.
The idea that you can give women power over men and trust them not to abuse it the way men do power over women is bullshit and implies women are as passive and gentle as the patriarchy wants them to be and creates opportunities for abusers to abuse with impunity.
I really hate the whole “mother goddess/matriarchal age” nonsense, because like:
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 